Since moving to the city, my childhood friends and I have become distant. I would like to make new friends in the area, but I guess I just assume once someone finds out how few friends I have at the moment they will want nothing to do with me. Also, it seems like people my age (in college) only want friends who already have lots of friends, so as to improve their own social status. I am not unattractive, I have good taste, I am kind and outgoing, but I have extreme difficulties just approaching a stranger and starting a conversation. Working alone hasn鈥檛 exactly helped either. I found a few girls my age on myspace that had similar interests as me and who live near by. Of the ones who agreed to add me as their friend, there has been no communication since they鈥檝e been added to my friend list. How do I start a friendship with these people, who as of now are complete strangers? Is there a way to get the conversation flowing? Any other advice on how to meet new people? I would love to take acting or dance classes, but do not have extra money for it right now.
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I have had the same problem. I moved out of my home state three and a half years ago and have only made a few friends here...they aren't even really good Friends, just the kid who only want things from me or ones that only talk to me at school. I just started college this past Jan. 2007. I have a few people I talk to at school but we don't talk outside of that. I am just not the type of person who can walk up to someone I don't know and start talking to them. Even if we do talk I am not going to sound like a loser and ask them to please be my fiend. I too have resorted to Myspace to find other people my age to be friends with that live in my area. I did meet one girl who is a fair-weather friend, but nobody else. So I don't really know what to say. You said you are outgoing so maybe you should get into some type of club at school or go to the local bar and hang out. Sorry I can't be of more help.
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Wait for an opportunity, once you get on a subject that you and someone else likes you two will go on and on.... Also, throw some compliments around, be like "hey cute shoes" and ask where they got them and stuff. People love talking about themselves, if they seem friendly ask them what interests them. And stop with the myspace try to be friends with people you will actually see every day. Good luck, girl. Confidence!
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i hate to hear of someone new looking for friends, i have always taken notice of them and start a friendship cuz i'd hate to feel like that.....if i were u, i'd go to a church, a local library, just start talkin about anything that is interesting, like some girls do about clothes, hairstyles, salons... and if they are a really nice person then sure they'd like u, u sound really sweet......go to local parks and maybe if u like to take hikes, sure there's gotta be some there who would love to meet someone like u, also, the movies is good too, good luck!!!!!!!
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Dude (I mean: dudette!), I have the same problem. I can go to school with someone for 2 or three years, and they are in my class for all of them, and they come up to me one day and start talking, I feel like a total stranger.I don't know how to respond to their statements, and I can't keep the conversation going. If you have any tips for me--PLEASE tell me.
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Bummer, perhaps you should ask the people what you did to make them ignore you and tell them that you really wan't to have a very long lasting friendship. But if you don't want to be with them anymore then like you said meet new people. How? Well, when a new girl moves into the city and is new to your country, then show her around and tell/show her your favorite places to be when your alone. But, if your new to the nieghborhood then thats a different story. When you want to get use to being around there and wanna learn about the niehborhood, then ask someone whos already familiar with the nieghborhood and tell them thank you and ask them if they would go hang somewhere.
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This makes me feel very sad. I presume you live alone in a city you don't really know and attend college? The best way is to get involved with groups at your college, ie. get on committees, etc. What about people who are in your classes? Find someone who has similar interest, etc, to you, and ask them to things with you. Be confident. When you get to know people through there, you can say casually "hey, let's grab a coffee, a movie..." etc. I know you don't have much money, but something like a drama class, a dance class, an art class or any sort of class would be a very good idea - after a few weeks of getting to know people, you can ask them out for a coffee at your place, and later dinner, etc. Join in with as many things as you can and the friends will come, it takes time, but hang in there! Good luck to you.
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