Am I the other woman????

So there is this guy that i've been seeing for a little under a year now. We will get together and hang out, make out, but we have done nothing "below the belt" Well, I was looking at his myspace and there is this girl that posted this comment on xmas day, "Merry christmas baby, i love you!"

He has never mentioned a gf nor has he been acting shifty like he may have a gf. I have not discovered any signs besides the one i just got today from his myspace page.

My roommate and I both agree he acts like he genuinelly likes me. He will drop everything and drive an hour to come see me whenever I ask him if he wants to hang out.

To most people, the answer is pretty obvious: yes, I am the other woman. But is there any other possible solution to this "mystery girl" and why she may be calling him "baby"?

Am I the other woman????

Your question has intrigued me, you have this guy who evidently likes you,and proof of that is the fact he will "Drop everything" and drive an hour, just to "Hang out" with you. The fact that he's willing to drive an hour, and just make out above "the belt" is a sure sign this guy has nothing else going on, except for some friends on "Myspace" who may live in Thailand for all you know.If you are really interested in keeping this guy, ask him if he is willing to try a committed relationship with you, that you care about him, and would like him to be your boyfriend,because it sounds as if you haven't passed the friendship stage, into the relationship status.As for his friends on myspace,it is common for people who consider themselves friends to say "I Love You." I belong to a similar friends network, and all of us say "I Love You", we also call each other "baby", "sweetheart","dear","beautiful",as well as many other terms of endearment. There is an old phrase, "If you Love someone, set them free." To have a successful relationship requires trust,and mutual respect. We cannot control any other person's lives, or make their decisions for them. This is true even in a married partnership.There are rules to a committed relationship which must be followed, or else the bond of trust and respect is broken.We all take a risk when we invest ourselves, and time, in another person.This is Life. We cannot live in fear of venturing out and taking calculated risks.If we don't take some chances, we aren't truely alive.That's what any committed relationship involves,taking a chance on another person.So lighten up, let him have his friends on myspace,if you display jealousy and a desire to control someone who you don't even have a commitment to, you will push them away. If you can't tolerate his myspace friends, let him know you want him for yourself, and those friends of his cause you concern.Let him know how serious you are about him and this issue if you just can't trust him, otherwise, he will never know how you feel about him.

Am I the other woman????

ask him. if he says shes just a friend let him know it makes you uncomfortable that she calls him baby. it could be that shes an old friend that hes known for a really long time. but youll never know unless you ask. dont assume anything, most of the time youll just end up looking like an idiot for assuming. trust me on that one. and if you are the other woman, run away itll only bite you in the *** later.