Well about a year ago i met a guy at work and we'd kiss and everything but nothing else because Im waiting until marriage.The problem was that this guy said i could NOT be his girlfriend unless I did it but ofcourse I never did. The sad thing is, is that I fell in love with him and he tells me that he likes me and that im beautiful and gorgeous. Well on his myspace (yeah its sad i know! lol) he wrote about some girl saying that shes the only girl that ould get anything out of him. I thought he was talking about me but wasnt sure so i asked. He said he was talking about his ex and that shes the only girl he can "love." Well I sent him a text message telling him that the same way he felt about his ex is the way i feel about him. Well he said he didnt know that. Well I took him off my myspace, deleted his number from my phone and ignored him when i saw him at his job. Am i overreacting? Or should I continue to be friends with him? What should i do?
Am i overreacting?
You should NOT have sex with a man just to please him or make him like you more so good for you! It shows that you have respect for yourself which is awesome because not many girls now days do. I don't think that you over reacted because it seemed that you were giving him hints on how you liked him but he was saying that it was only going to work if you guys had sex. If a guy is going to base a relationship on sex then all he is going to do is end up with a slut who he is going to fall for and she is going to cheat on him. Guys like that deserve to be with sluts cause they are just going to be treated as they treat their girls. You need a guy that will respect you in every aspect weather it's sex or religion or just whatever makes YOU happy. You did the right thing!
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don't be friends w/ him. People like that only want you for sex.
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eh....
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let him go.
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Let him have his wicked way, dont be shy!!!!!!!!
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Let him go Dede.......there are plenty of good guys out there who will respect your decision.
You deserve better than being lied to.
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You are not over-reacting. he does not respect you or what you stand for and he has already told you that he has feels for his ex. move on before you get your heart any deeper into this
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It may hurt you , but move on....
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He's obviously not ready to commit to another relationship. You have done the right thing.
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I would continue being friends with him, but he shouldn't say that he'll only date you if you have sex with him, but you aer over reacting a little
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I think that you're first reaction is the correct one; he is too busy breaking hearts - and you want to keep yours intact, right?
And realise that there IS SOMEONE out there who will pick you up, and put you in their heart.
A much better outcome, don't you think?
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Good for you delaeting him and taking his number off your phone.You are way too good for him to begin with.He couldnt respect the fact you want to wait until you got married....Let him be and movvvvveeeeeeeee onnnnnnnnnnnn!!!! To many men out there that will treat you with respect.
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I think that you did the right thing, he was only after one thing, and thank god that you did not give it to him.
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omg!! thats almost the same as cheatig..b freinds now..not too close tho...keep distance dont talk more than 2 times a day..heres a good website 4 advice:
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good luck
xxxx,
daddys gal
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You should be friends. without sex thats all you every were.
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KISS HIM GOOD BYE START LOOKING FOR THE REAL LOVE baby its out there JUST FOCUS
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YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!! You did what is needed to be done as he was using you!!!!!!!!
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Keep away from him. Workplace romances are very dangerous and can cause plenty of problems.Glad you live by my motto " Don't f**k where you make a buck".
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you're not over reacting, u did the right thing. first of all, he said that u had to give it up. guess u wasn't too pretty to have ur wishes disrespected. he claim he can't love any more, so don't pursue him, he runing after some one who has moved on, he's a chaser, don't u turn into one too. U did the right thing, and I don't care who says ur wrong, but u r looking out for u. ur heart isn't something to play with. Just continue to do you. When u wantred him, he didn't want u, so keep looking the other way, even if he do come around, don't even think twice.
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You did right bcuz it seem like he was just looking for a hit. you know he will not marry you since his ex is the only girl he could love therefore you will not be intimate. Then on top of it he announces this on myspace. He doesn't love you now and won't then and don't give him any cat to keep him bcuz they will make you believe if you do it they will stay but it is a lie. Some guys are dogs like that.
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No, you are not overreacting. Only be friends if you think he respects your wishes, and if you think you can handle it. Don't ever let anyone talk you into something you're not ready to do. Congratulations on making the decision to wait until marriage. Not only are you saving yourself a lot of heartache, but you will be giving the man you marry a very special gift. :)
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He obviously only wanted you for sex. He goes and tells you he likes you then turns around and says that his ex is the only one he can love. You didn't overreact.
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what have you done is right .. there nothing you have done to be over reacted.. cuz these kinda guys should be treated in this way so that they can realize and respect other feelings too
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first off, any guy that only wants to have a girlfriend that will have sex with him isnt a good guy to have as a boyfriend.
secondly, now that he knows how you feel for him he is going to think that you will have sex with him because he thinks youll do whatever it takes to be with him. so, he might start acting interested in you just to sleep with you.
however, dont let his advances sucker you into doing what isnt in your heart and what you arent ready for yet in your life. sex changes everything. youll feel used and then he will wont show you the attention you want.
even if you dont have sex with him and you guys start dating, he already has said he can only love his exgirlfriend. this wont always be true for him, but until more time passes in his life the only girl he will ever care about wholely will be his ex. he wont give other girls what they need in a boyfriend
so, finally, my advice.
since you work with him you need to keep it just that... a relationship just like the relationships you have with your other coworkers. dont get buddy buddy with him cause you will continue to want what you cant have. his heart isnt ready for someone new.
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ooh Dede you are everybody's dream girl.gorgeous and smart.you are special.he wants to get to your treasure and then brag about it.he is not worth your time.he is a boy not a man.he is trying to use ex to put pressure on you
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I think you should trust your instincts. You went into a self protective mode for a reason. Perhaps in that split second you realized that you could not settle for being used for sex and not loved and adored as you should well expect to be when you decide its right to share your most intimate self. You did the right thing. You have self respect. When that more worthy person comes along, you will be glad you waited. You wont be bringing excess-baggage (memories of another) to the relationship. Expect to be still attracted to him, maybe even have your heart skip a beat, but that's one fella that you should treat like a "hot potato".
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Since you've waited this long, keep waiting till you find the right person. This one isn't Mr. right. He just want to get into your pants.
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No offense and no disrespect, but you're going to have a lot of trouble finding a man willing to wait until marriage. And, who's to say your going to like the kind of man willing to wait? It's hard enough finding a compatible partner let alone adding obstacles.
His actions tell me he's not the kind of guy who is going to be willing to wait. He may not want to be so bold as to say that, so as not to hurt your feelings or you to judge him for feeling that way. My gut feeling is you did him a favor by "disappearing".
Frankly, I can't understand your way of thinking. Sexual compatibility is a big part of a marriage. Would you be willing to wait to see what a guy's financial state is until marriage? Surprise, I'm broke and unemployed! Would you be willing to wait to meet his parents until the wedding day? Why not, you'll spend less time with them than having sex (at least one hopes so).
Waiting is like getting one of those "grab bag" prizes at the fair - you never know what's going to be inside, but it's rarely if ever anything you'd ever want. If sex is not important to you, then you should be honest and just say that. At least then the guy knows what he's in for.
I've known a couple of women that stood by their convictions of "waiting for marriage". Neither of them ended up in happy marriages - sex ending being one of the major issues (surprise, surprise). One apparently never really wanted to have sex at all - her convictions were just a convenient excuse. The other, turns out is ultimately not compatible with the type of man who is willing to wait until marriage. She's since found the right man after a few sexual partners and a little more dating with open eyes.
But hey! Good luck with that.
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Sounds like he is only interested in hitting it...
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