Advice for a younger friend...?

i have a close friend who just turned 18 and has been dating this guy for 3 years now

he has drug her threw the mud pretty much...he hasn't been caught cheating but the things ppl have said and the message girls have left him on myspace and on his cell are great clues

they have been on and off again for the last few months she calls me crying about how he won't give her the time of day/ or wants sexhe won't go back to being bf gf...and she won't take my advice to move on and see what he does

she is to in love to realize whats going on...how can i make her see she shouldn't be treated like this

he didn't allowe her when they weren't dating to do senior dress up day for halloween. or go to the senior night football game etc but he does all this w/ who ever he wants

she kinda makes it seem like idk how relationship works because idk him ( we have met a few times) but even my bf has giving her advice about guys and relationships

Advice for a younger friend...?

Well... I know this may sound very very brutal, but it does work. Tell her there's no dought he is treating her bad, she needs to leave him, which I am sure that you have told her before. Then let her be, she will learn that it's not right to have people treat you wrong, let her learn it on her own. It's the hardest way to do it, but it will teach her. Sometimes all a person needs is some tough love. The next time she calls you crying, say that you gave her advice before she went through this, and it was her fault for not taking it. Tell her again to leave him, if she doesn't, leave her be. She WILL learn.. Sorry to be so mean though, but I went through the same thing, except, i was the girl who wouldn't leave!

Advice for a younger friend...?

If she really was your friend, she'd listen to you. Believe me, she shouldn't want a person that isn't going to make her feel loved, and drag her around like she's no one. It's a very depressing situation. You need to keep pressuring her to leave him alone. Get her associated with some friends, and keep her mind off of him. If she is a good person, she doesn't deserve that treatment.

Advice for a younger friend...?

sorry sweetie but ur frined has to see this all on her own .. i know its hard for you to watch yher go through this and i bet you get frustrated but from expierience she wont thank you if you interfere... this is just a part of her life she has to find out the hard way... i promise she will get up one day and she will just not be bothered with it anymore and she will tell him where to go .... at the min just support her and be there for her when she needs a friend and trust me sweetie she will need you very soon... all the best xx

Advice for a younger friend...?

If she won't listen to you then tell her you can't listen to her. Tell her that you've said all you can say and that you believe she deserves better from a relationship, but she obviously doesn't, so she needs to handle him on her own.

She can call you to talk about anything, except to complain about him and how he's treating her. She is being treated this way because she allows it. You no longer need to hear about it. If she wants help to extricate herself from his life and vice versa, then you will be there to help and to pick up the pieces, but as long as she chooses to be with him, then she is on her own.

It's tough love, but it's love.

Advice for a younger friend...?

until somethign happens shes not ognna realzie whats going on. i knew someone who was in sorta the same situation and no matter hwo many people told her what was goign on she didnt realize it. family even told her soemthign was off but she coudl beleave it. it took him breaking up with her fo rher to realize how bad it was because she has said she woudl of never broken up wiht him. you can tell her over and over to end it wiht him but she probably dosnt realize shes being treated bad or she just cant beleive it. just be there for her and let her know youll always be there no matter what. eventually shell come around.

Advice for a younger friend...?

no offense but your friend sounds really stupid!

my husband's sister-in-law is the same way about his brother.

he cheated on her before they were married and in the first 3 months of marriage slept with 9 other women that weren't his wife!

she had been told about it by everyone.... everyone but him that is. when he finally did tell her they screamed at each other, she said she was happy that she had a miscarriage, she cheated on him, then ran off with another guy for 2 months. then CAME BACK!!! stupid!?!? I think so.

she still says she loves him, and will never leave him again, but no one believes her.

I don't think that it will hit your friend until the guy that she's "so madly in love with" tells her the whole deal. or if you ever see him with another girl take a pic and show her.

OR, the next time she comes to you crying and saying that he doesn't want her, tell her "Good!, now you came move on. you knew it was never going to work out anyway." if it's been an on off thing tell her to kill the power and end the flickering light. it only gives people headaches anyways.

Advice for a younger friend...?

try one last time to let her know how the guy shud treat her but if it dunt work, just leave it, you cant make peoples mistakes for them

good luck =]

Advice for a younger friend...?

telll her follow her HEART!!!