Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

Ok so here's the low down. I'm in a relationship that at times has had it's ups and downs but for the most part is wonderful. I love this girl with everything I am even more so then my ex. What's the crappy part tho is that I haven't heard from her in a while and some times she gets depressed about stuff and goes into her silent mode for days, weeks or months on end and she won't email or write anyone or call or any thing and it hurts not just me but her family and friends as well and yes I've done my research via myspace of her friends profiles and well it just sucks for all of us. But the one person she's hurting the most is her herself. No matter how much my mind tells me to just end it I can't I love her too damned much to just give up on her just because of a lack of communication. But some times I just don't know. Has she moved on without me and without so much as letting me know? Is it over? Should I just end it? That's the ultimate question here. We met in Sept. of 2006

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

hmm, this is difficult to talk about really, all i could say is to call her, and let her know how u feel about her, it sounds like she is very depressed (but i may be wrong) just talk to her and get her to open up to you, go to where she lives and check she is ok... :) and i really hope things work out for you both, dont end it untill you have spoken to her

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

If she does this to her family and friends during the same time period that she does it to you, she probably has a mental disorder. This sounds like bipolar. I am NOT a doctore by any means. But if you can get her to see a doctor about it, I STRONGLY suggest you do.

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

you seem like a very patient man...more patient than I would be ...that's for sure. Sounds like this girl needs meds and some professional help. You can't wait forever...She needs to know that what she's doing is selfish and is hurting you. You need to commuicate that to her and Let her decide to change from there. You can't go on like this forever.

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

i have no patience in reading your long question. try to make it short.

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

Remember love is just an emotion. You must have loved your ex once, but probably not now? Whatever this girl is like now she will be like all the time.. My husband says, "This is what you have to look forward to" a girl who you may think you love, but who doesn't communicate for days, weeks, months.......then what? I would write her a letter (certify it if you want to be sure she gets it) and tell her that you will have to break up with her unless she contacts you. If she loves you, she will contact you, and she probably should have done that by now anyhow.

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

Depression does cause people to withdraw and your friend may need to be made aware of the pain she is causing others. She needs to be brought to the realization that she needs professional help.

At the same time, this may be a form of manipulation. Knowing that everyone is thinking/worrying about her could be a kind of power play.

Regardless, you are unhappy and presumably don't want to go on feeling this way. Let her know you will protect yourself from the emotional and psychological pain this is causing you.

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

The kind of withdrawal you're describing sounds like a sign of serious depression. If so, I doubt she would try to move on (at least, not to anyone else), but if she refuses to get treatment or at least enough control over it to warn you exactly what's going on, it's going to kill your relationship sooner or later. As you said, the person who's being hurt most here is herself, so encourage her to get help and look after your own mental well-being if she doesn't respond.

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

~hmm dont end it yet. i think that you should try and talk to her or just leave her a note saying your feelings for her. Dont give up yet because they longer you try then she should realize you really do love her and that you were like this for a reason. she should respect that. But yea try and tell her how you feel. do something sweet for her and see where that goes. good Luck.

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

Just from reading this, it sounds like you havnt even met her in person.?

she odveosly has some problems. but it dosnt really sound liek you have a healthy relationship i think you should probably just move on. IF/WHEN she calls you be there for her (becasue depression)

but move on with your life forsure

Lonely guy needs help and advice.?

No don't end it with her. Because if she is depressed like you say it may make things worse. When you see her again ask her if she would like to see a Dr and get medication to help with the depression. . Unless she is already on something. Sometimes some medications don't work they make it worse. I suffer from depression and I don't take medication . 1ST off we don't have insurance to help pay for and the hubby won't let me take anything. But I have been taking Relacore which does help with stress which can cause depression and it also helps with mild anxiety. I hope everything works out for you. And I hope she over comes her depression.