Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

I'm 16 years old and I've been going out with my ex for 10 months. Hes a little messed up from his childhood. he had problems with his family. his mom was really into drugs, she was horrible to him, and his dad hits him sometimes. About a one into our relationship he started doing things behind my back. (going on MySpace and flirting with girls. Going to meet up with them.)He stopped that about a month ago. Hes a little bit of a control freak and likes everything to be set. Making sure I have my cell phone with me at all times so he can get a hold of me, me not being allowed to talk to certain people ect. He threated to hit me once and we fight everyday. hes really changed in the last month, but hes still messed up. I broke up with him last night and now he said he wants to kill himself. hes REALLY in love with me. Hes obsessive. I feel like i made the right choice but i miss him so much. and i feel horrible. Do you think I did the right thing?

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

yes, you're 16, you have no reason to even have a boyfriend in the first place. And this is a shining example as to why. The two of you arent mentally and emotionally ready for such a commitment, youre still kids. I'm sure you dont like hearing that but its the truth.

So to answer your question, yes you did the right thing. And the next right thing to do would to not get into another relationship until you are mentally ready and mature.

As for your ex here... he seems like a really screwed up individual and you will only be hurting yourself by continuing contact with him. If you really want to help him tell him to get some counseling. After that end every facet of your relationship with him. Honestly, you will only be screwing yourself over in the long run.

If you dont take my advice I guarantee that sooner than later, you will remember this answer to your question and kick yourself for not heeding my warning.

Good luck

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

He needs more help than you can give him by getting back together with him. I think the decision you made was a good one, especially with the threat of violence and the fighting.

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

u don't have to get back with him. just tell someone about this like a school concelour, uhh but your probably on summer vacation?? i stilll am so i dunno. but just tell an adult that would care, that hes threaten to killl himself.

that way he would get help, you don't need to get back with him he could really hurt you

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

if you`ll continue on breaking up w/ him then accept him again, he`ll not changed...it`s like you`re tolerating him to be what he is right now...you said he tried to hit you sometime?how can you say then that he loves you? tell him to grow up!!!

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

he is still trying to control you with treats to kill him self and so on. you have done the right thing as if you go back he will again control you. but tell someone at school or your mom what he is saying you dont need to be forced back into this relationship.

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

He's got a problem. Worse, every time that you break up with him, you go back?! Sounds like a pattern. He should get some sort of help, counseling, something. Its really too bad his parents were messed up big time. They need help also! Vicious cycle. I would definitely part from him permanently this time. There are others out there. You don't need that ~ do you?

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

You are too young ...and u should have give some more time to ur relationship. If he is possasive and wants you everytime..Give him emotional support as you write about his family problem...Actually he only needs ur proper attention. And if his is confident from ur side that U r with him always. he will be changed and will be very good for u...So plz take care of him and your relationship...Dont worry he will not go to any one.....Dont loose ur love because Once in a life time you find a true love ......S obest of Luck

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

Listen, this is hard to hear but it's not your responsibility to baby sit him. If he's truely suicidal it wouldn't be because of the break up, it would be because of mental illness and you being together wouldn't change that. He's just using an excuse to trap you.

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

you summed it all up with control freak ,

get the heck away from him and find someone who is ready to be in a relationship he sound like he needs allot of alone time to get himself together

abusive people rarely change please be careful you are more important than he is at this time in your life worry more about school , tell a teacher if you are worried about him hurting him self but beyond that there is not much you can do but take care of yourself

Broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.. big problems now?

he's trying to blackmail you. if you give into it once, you will be a target forever. ditch him.